Wednesday, July 6, 2016

MY TAKE ON MODESTY AND MINIMALISM

Before you get turned off by the word "modesty", keep reading and hear me out.

This is for gals and guys. Old and young. 

The word modesty has become somewhat misconstrued over the years.

When we hear that word, we associate it with women wearing long skirts and dresses.

In reality, it is defined much differently than than that. 

According to Dictionary.com modesty is :
  1. the quality of being modestfreedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc.
  2. regard for decency of behavior, speech, dress,etc. 
  3. simplicity; moderation.
Therefore, modesty is a lifestyle.

It is more than just clothing. 

Many people have a bad view of modesty,

In particular, some girls remember when they were younger and a cranky old woman told them their outfit looked inappropriate.  

Or a strict parent volunteering at a youth group told them that their shorts were too short and unacceptable for church.

Or a teacher at school sent them to the office for violating dress code. 

The word "modesty" has almost become a punishment.

When really, it means something completely different.

Modesty can come in many forms.

We can be modest with our words and behavior.

We can be modest with the way we present and respect ourselves and others.

We can be modest by having a humble attitude.

Actually humility is a synonym for modesty as well.

Moreover, there is a new movement sweeping through our culture called "minimalism".

Becomingminimalist.com gives us a clear meaning of modern minimalism by explaining,
"It is marked by clarity, purpose, and intentionality. At its core, minimalism is the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of everything that distracts us from it. It is a life that forces intentionality. And as a result, it forces improvements in almost all aspects of your life."
At first I viewed it as just another fad.
But then I realized that living minimally is actually a great concept and it can go hand in hand with living modestly. 
Living modestly is more internal and living minimally is external. 
Minimalists are known for having limited material things.

They live simply and keep their belongings...well minimal.

There is even a phenomenon called the "capsule wardrobe"

This involves limiting your clothes to somewhere around 30 items and getting rid of the rest.

These 30 items can mix and match but you can't add to it or go shopping for more after you've chosen.

This way, you can learn to be content with what you have, keep your closet clean, and not worry as much about your appearance.

When I first heard about this, I said there's no way that I could ever do that.

I love shopping and I love keeping up with the trends. 

And what if Forever 21 was having a huge sale...then what would I do?

Oh I know, how about just never do the capsule wardrobe?! 

Yeah, good plan.

Then, just the other day it came up again and I began to reexamine my lifestyle.

Was I really living modestly?

Was I making my life more stressful, cluttered and complicated than it needed to be?

Yes.

Time for a change.

I've seen how the effects of shopping and accumulating material things have impacted people I love firsthand. 

I've seen how clutter has invaded a home and how the utilization of a sale can become an obsession.

So I've decided to try make my life more minimalistic... Starting now.

Less stuff, less stress.

Especially since I'm not a naturally organized person.

On top of that, I have a theory that living with less will also contribute to living modestly internally.

When I have less things to deal with, I will have more time for taking care of my own needs and the needs of others, without being overwhelmed with too much. 

Unnecessary tasks and to do lists keep my mind occupied on the mess, not the beauty in life.

There's a quote that says "My goal is no longer to get more done, but rather have less to do" - Francine Jay

We can live minimally and in modest moderation by limiting our tasks and keeping it simple.

This way our whole lifestyle can be more relaxed and we can focus on the most important parts of life. 

Our entire persona can change.

So I've decided that when I get home from traveling this summer, I'm going to give away most of my clothes and other unnecessary belongings and choose not to acquire much more.

I may not be a pro at the capsule wardrobe but I'm definitely going to try and see if I can at least have a conscious awareness of minimalism in all aspects of my life. 

I refuse to let busyness and clutter get the best of me.

And I refuse to let sales constantly pull me into buying things I don't need.

Studies show that 1 in 6 people have a shopping addiction to the point where they can barely resist any bargain they see.

This could easily happen to any of us and the world is full of ads to entice consumers.

This is why our stuff keeps piling up.

I've decided to stop the cycle in my own life and only buy and keep items that have significant meaning in correspondence with my values.

Of course, I'll still get things that I genuinely need to survive. 

But I don't want anything flashy and expensive.

Actually, I take that back.

Just because something is expensive, does not mean it is not a wise investment.

As a matter of fact, I believe the key to minimalism is quality over quantity.

Yes, it may cost more but if it will last a lifetime then it is better than buying a ton of junk that breaks and needs to be replaced.

This way, less is more.

Overall, I just want the minimal, modest life.

My life was not created for earthly treasures or stressful living.

In fact, Jesus himself was quite the minimalist.

The best of all time I believe.

He traveled from place to place without a moving van or an RV full of stuff.

He didn't even bring a designer suitcase with a matching carry on bag!

Impressive, I know.

He only possessed the minimal survival necessities.

And He urged the people following Him to do the same.

One time a young ruler asked Jesus what was required of him on earth, in order to go to heaven.

Jesus answered,
"When Jesus heard this, he said to him, “One thing you still lack. Sell all that you have and distribute to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” But when he heard these things, he became very sad, for he was extremely rich." - Luke 18:22-23
So basically he told the guy to be a minimalist too.

Yeah...he didn't like that idea.

Kind of like me when I heard about the capsule wardrobe.

Now, I'm not saying everyone has to get rid of everything and I don't think Jesus meant that either.

The point was that there was an unhealthy attachment to the stuff.

An idolization of material things.

Jesus just wants us to be willing to give it all up in an instant if needed.

Because what we accumulate on this planet means nothing.

In heaven nobody will care about what your house looked like or if you didn't have one at all.

Jesus went on to say in verse 25, "For it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God."

Gotta love Jesus' analogies.

He said that because if anyone is unable to put God first and love Him above what their money can buy, then they are in serious danger and won't go to heaven whatsoever.

Money can be blinding and controlling.

Most of all, Jesus wants us to simply love Him and live free from any bondage. 

Free from the bondage of stuff, stress, busyness, and cultural expectations.

Remember the first definition of modesty.

1. the quality of being modestfreedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc.

Freedom.

Freedom from being conceited and consumed with greed etc etc etc.

It goes on and on.

Modesty and minimalism provide freedom from earthly attachment.

So what do you say?

Wanna follow Jesus together and let go of anyTHING holding us back?

I know I do.

Let's live more, with less.

Nobody said anything about how many pairs of boots you can have for the capsule wardrobe right?... 
















Saturday, July 2, 2016

PREGNANT?!

Gotcha! I knew that title would reel you in.

Well, now that you are here, might as well stay a while and let me tell you a story.

The other day I was on a date with my boyfriend, Carlos, at a coffee shop. Just before we arrived, we were having a conversation in the car about how I am a Words of Affirmation girl, and I need to be reassured constantly. It is just who I am. I actually need to be complimented and loved through kind words.

Anyway, as we got up to leave the coffee shop, a lady working there opened the door for us, and asked my boyfriend in Spanish if we were going to have a baby... Yes, she thought I was pregnant...He said no, no, no and we walked out. I looked at Carlos, who somehow maintained a blank face, and I knew that he was hoping I didn't understand what she just said in Spanish. Unfortunately for him, I most definitely comprehended it. I looked up at him and said, "I know what that lady just asked and I think I am gonna go cry now" (in a joking voice) and we both laughed.

Then, as we drove away, those words really started to hurt me and the conversation evolved into a little something like this,

Me: "Well, I guess I'm just fat"

Carlos: "The lady wasn't trying to be mean. I think the dress you are wearing was just blowing in the wind"

Me: "I don't care!!! The point is you've said nothing!! Aren't you going to tell me I don't look pregnant and I'm not fat?? Can't I just get some reassurance from you?? I mean, did we not just talk about this?!

Carlos: "You are not fat at all, you are gorgeous"

Me: "Ok, yeah, now you say that, after I yell at you."

Needless to say, I took out my insecurities on my boyfriend and drove home feeling embarrassed and depressed.

Then I got home and posted a video on snapchat sarcastically saying "Well a random lady at the coffee shop just thought I looked pregnant, so I think I'm going to go read some health magazines, and workout until I can't breathe"

Of course, I was joking but I ended up deleting it right after because I realized what I was doing.

Deep down, I wanted affirmation from people, even if I was kidding.

I wanted them to say, "What, that lady is crazy for asking that?!"

But then again, I would never say how I actually felt, I was just going to laugh it off.

Kind of like everyone does on social media.

I mean imagine a world where people were able to post exactly how they felt and say whatever they wanted, without being looked down on for complaining.

Like what if I said "Hey guys, so far this week a lady thought I looked pregnant which made me feel super insecure, I was sick with a fever throwing up and had to leave work early, I was in bed sick and depressed for a few days, and today I randomly got a sore throat so I couldn't talk or sing and now I am pretty sure I have strep throat or something so I have to go to the doctor in the morning. And to be honest, I feel really bad about it all and it is all just too much for me to handle".

But no. Instead we put on those selfie smiles and say everything is wonderful.

Moreover, as I scrolled through social media today, this is what I saw in my feed:

The perfectly put together outfit.

Beautifully decorated home.

Precisely edited majestic scenery.

An artful latte in the most adorable coffee shop you ever did see.

Braided hair and on fleek brows.

The cutest family photos.

Laughing candids.

A variety of food spread out on a white table, untouched, and positioned just right.

And of course each are consistent with the same moody or vibrant color scheme.

You all have an idea of what I'm saying.

Well there is a reason I follow all of those accounts.

1. For self inspiration
2. I enjoy their style
3. I want to support their following because I know that keeping up a consistently beautiful feed is hard.
4. I secretly want my life to look more like theirs.

I think we are all guilty of number 4 actually.

I mean, how can we not want to be drinking a yummy gourmet latte, in the perfect outfit, in Paris?

But you know what, I am being super honest right now.

For the past week I haven't posted much on my social media.

For a reason.

And that reason is,

It. all. feels. fake.

FAKE.

There I said it.

You can call me negative Nelly.

But no no no, I'm not allowed to be anything but positive on social media! How dare I?!

That would mean I am being...real... (gasp)

Haven't you heard the rules?

You cannot show any other emotion besides happiness on social media because no one wants to see a negative post or else they will unfollow you forever and not be your friend anymore.

Why?

Because people are on social media in the first place to make themselves feel good.

They want your pictures to either make them happy or make them daydream of the perfect life.

Ok ok, I'm over-exaggerating a bit, but I just needed to rant for a second.

The truth of the matter is that I am saying this for myself.

I have felt fake lately.

I have felt like I've been trying to be like everybody else.

But the part I struggle with most is that I don't know how else to do it.

How can I run an online business without trying to please my customers?

How can I gain a following without having a nice looking feed that inspires people?

Building something beautiful isn't wrong, so why do I feel bad about it?

Well, maybe it's because I am pressuring myself or comparing myself...but I sort of have to do those things in order to get stuff done and do it well...so that's confusing.

Sometimes we all just want to post exactly how we feel and truly "live authentic".

To be honest, it has become socially unacceptable to do that online.

When we say, "don't let your emotions out on social media", we are also saying "hide your real personal life from the world".

People are just quickly scrolling to find satisfaction and guess what? That is where the pressure comes from.

You know, that pressure to have the best selfie and best angle?

Ok rant over.

Sorry for being all over the place in this blog, I just love it here because it's my little space to say whatever I want, for as long as I want, however I want to say it. It's great.

But still, deep down, I want you guys to like reading what I have to say.

So there it goes again.

What can ya do? I still don't know the answer.

But what I have learned after reflecting on this is that I think my problem is the affirmation.

If I am in it solely for the pleasure of the views/likes/comments/followers, then I will always feel the pressure to please everyone.

On the other hand, if I am posting for myself and because I like the picture or because I enjoy being able to help and inspire people, then it's a whole different ball game.

Most importantly, I should never post anything before thinking if it will honor God first.

If all I am doing is complaining or being negative then that won't give a good example of the grace and love of Jesus in my life.

Instead, I can have the freedom to post how I feel but in a way that is genuine and honest for the sake of being vulnerable, rather than for the sake of the approval of others.

..remembering that I don't need to have a beautiful social account, in order to have a beautiful life.

"Confidence is not 'they will like me'. Confidence is, 'I'll be fine if they don't' " - Christina Grimmie

Christina was always herself online and didn't let the industry change her. That's why people loved her and felt connected to her. She is my role model and her legacy will live on in my life.

I hope I can get to the point where I am able to be personal online like she was, without worrying about exposing the real me.

I want to be my weird self, yet still display beautiful creativity in my photos, business, and social accounts.

My goal is to say what I wanna say, and be legit without needing anyone to validate it as "acceptable social media behavior".

I just wanna be me.

The journey has begun.

It is time for us all to stop the judgements and allow people to be real on social media because whether we accept it or not, social media is the new modern reality. 




Saturday, June 18, 2016

LET'S BE THE CHURCH

Over the past few days, I've been visiting various parts of the Orlando area, walking around the streets and seeing how the community has come together to support each other through this difficult time. It has been truly beautiful to see how even in the midst of their own pain, people are doing everything they can to help. Businesses are giving proceeds and doing fundraisers. The streets are decorated with flowers, flags, lights, and posters. People are showing they care in all kinds of creative ways and the city is being covered with compassion.

I've also seen how the church has stepped up to play their part. There have been prayer services and vigils all over the place. People are praying together and loving each other. The peace and comfort of Jesus is being poured out and hearts are being restored. 

I couldn't help but feel like this is the way it's supposed to be. This should be the urgency of the church at all times. We should always be there for people in pain because it is constantly happening. People are always hurting and continually in need of prayer support. I think a lot of times we feel like we should let the church leaders take the main role, and we back away. Then, when tragedy strikes, we are compelled to do something, so we step up.

In our hearts, we know what we need to do but many times we are just scared to act. This week, I saw the church truly in action and something sparked in me, so I wrote a simple poem just as a reminder for us all to think on. We are the body of Christ! Let's be His hands and feet, everyday through the joy and the hardships. 

The Body
Let's be the hands
For them to hold
The helpers
Fit to serve
Let's be the feet
That are so bold 
Bringing hope
With every word
Let's be the body
Like we're told
Marked by love
Filled with grace 
Let's be the church
Our task foretold
Sharing Jesus
Bringing peace

"For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For as in one body we have many members,and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another." (Romans 12:3-5 ESV)

A beautiful historic church I saw last night walking through Winter Park. 






























Always love,

Darcy

Monday, June 13, 2016

WHEN THE WEIGHT OF THE WORLD IS TOO HEAVY TO HOLD

Where do I begin.

The past few days have been hard.

They have been full of tragedy and suffering.

First, our hearts broke for the loss of Christina Grimmie.

I cried so much that day as I wrote about her beautiful soul.

Just her death alone reminded me of all the evil in the world.

I wrote about terrorism.

I said not to fear.

Little did I know that I would wake up the next morning to more horrific news.

The world shook with the news of the Orlando mass shooting.

Orlando, the city I've called home.

The city I worked in.

The city I attended school in.

The city I love.

Attacked.

The weight of my pain became heavier.

I took on the grief.

I mourned with those who mourned.

I went to a church service in Orlando last night and prayed collectively.

I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders.

This morning I woke up still feeling a heaviness.

I didn't want to eat breakfast.

I couldn't focus on the tasks of the day.

Then, I got into my car and when I turned it on I heard this:

When fear feels bigger than my faith
And struggles steals my breath away
When my back pressed up against the wall
With the weight of my worries stacked up tall
You're strong enough to hold it all

I will cast my cares on you
You're the anchor of my hope
The only one who's in control
I will cast my cares on you
I'll trade the troubles of this world
For your peace inside my soul

This war's not what I would have chosen
But you see the future no one knows yet
And you're still good when I can't 
See the working of your hands
You're holding it all

I'm finding there's freedom,
When I lay it all on your shoulders

-Cast My Cares by Finding Favour 

So this post goes out to all of us feeling burdened today.

Those of us whose hearts are aching continually.

When we turn on the news,

When we go on social media,

When we read the articles,

We can cast our cares on The Lord.

He is strong enough to hold it when we feel weak.

There can still be joy in midst of suffering.

None of us can change what happened but we can get stronger because of it.

We can still smile.

We can be grateful for love and community.

We can trust God's plan and have faith that He is good.

Let's give Him our fears, our sadness, and our worries.

He can carry that weight.

His shoulders are much stronger than ours.

Let's let go and say "It is well with my soul".

That is where our freedom is found.

"Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7 NIV)


Saturday, June 11, 2016

CHRISTINA GRIMMIE: "IN CHRIST ALONE"

I have many thoughts going through my mind right now.

Thoughts of all of the evil in the world.

Thoughts of why God continues to let us go on like this.

Thoughts of the abundant grace that we have been given as a human race and questions as to why Jesus hasn't returned yet when it is this bad.

I am actually in tears while writing this, as I listen to the incredible voice of Christina Grimmie, who was shot yesterday and killed at her own concert.

I think about the victim in the Brock Turner Stanford rape case.

I think of the terrorist attacks all over the world.

I think of the thousands of babies being aborted daily.

This world is a very scary place. It is evil and cruel.

Why? Because there is an enemy in it who is very active.

An enemy of God, with a goal to convince minds to act on every evil thought.

Sometimes I let the fear of this enemy come into my own mind.

I fear following my dreams of singing and touring the world, like Christina.

I fear allowing myself to be present on the internet and build a personal community.

I fear traveling to far off places and putting myself in harm's way.

Today, I saw a picture of Paris and I thought, wow I would love to visit there.

Then, the recent tragedies of terrorism interfered with my idea and I questioned it.

Thing is, these 'fears' only stop me if I let them keep me from acting.

The thoughts themselves can be acknowledged.

But I must not let the enemy win and keep me from living my dreams.

This applies to us all.

In this life, we will see evil.

We can choose to live in fear because of it or choose to embrace the power of Christ.

No power of hell can stop us if we surrender our destiny to Jesus.

We must understand that there is no fear in love.

God is love.

He wants the best for our lives.

We may not easily comprehend why he allows evil to continue.

We may not think it's fair.

But ultimately His plan is being played out.

One day He will return and bring judgement upon the evil.

And one day, those of us who love and abide in Him will be taken home.

"By this we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. We love because he first loved us." (1 John 4:13-19 ESV)

Paris (@thefashionmedley)

In Christina Grimmie's cover of "In Christ Alone". She introduces her video by saying it is one her favorite songs ever. Her description:


"JESUS CHRIST IS MY LORD AND SAVIOR and i'm not at all ashamed of it.

As I watched the video I could sense her passion for the words.


Once she reached the last verse of the song, chills took over my whole body and my tears came pouring down. As she sung:


No guilt in life, no fear in death,
This is the power of Christ in me;
From life's first cry to final breath.
Jesus commands my destiny.
No power of hell, no scheme of man,
Can ever pluck me from His hand;
Till He returns or calls me home,
Here in the power of Christ I'll stand.

I sat in silence when the video ended.

I felt feelings of sadness that such a beautiful soul was taken from the Earth.

Yet, I also felt a peace that through this tragedy, she may be used to inspire others to devote their soul and destiny to Jesus.

For this is the only way any of us can live without fear, defeat evil, and spend eternity with our Savior.

As Christina's publicist stated, "Christina has passed and went home to be with the Lord,"




Christina has inspired me to live without fear and live my dreams. Whether that means pursuing music or just being vulnerable and personal with the world. Please share this so that more can be inspired and continue to pray for Christina's family.


Always love,


Darcy

Saturday, June 4, 2016

3 WAYS TO LEAVE A LEGACY

Do you ever wonder what people will remember you by?

Sometimes I daydream about the legacy I will leave. I wonder what I would be remembered by if I died tomorrow versus if I was a hundred years old.

What do I want my life to look like? What do I want to accomplish? Who do I want to be known as? Or will I even be remembered at all?

Well the other day these thoughts came to me after a funny incident occurred.

As the story goes, my mom was walking on the beach and began talking to a woman. They started to share about their lives and become acquainted with one another. My mom spoke of me, then about ten minutes later the woman said, "...wait a second..Darcy..that's familiar...I think I remember her from church camp...she was the one who did 'The Worm' dance!!" My mom replied, "Yes, yes that was my Darcy alright!" 

When my mom told me this story, I just laughed because a complete stranger remembered me as the girl who did The Worm...I wonder how many other people remember me for that! I must have really left a lasting impression. 

Then I realized something.

I realized that I wouldn't have been remembered if I didn't do something so crazy. I would have just been another eleven year old at church camp. 

I realized that it took guts to be a kid that danced in front of everyone with no shame. I was proud of my "Worm" abilities and I wasn't scared to show it! It was actually very brave, especially for a naturally conservative introvert like myself. 

So now that I'm older, how can I translate that bravery to my daily life? I know it's still in me, I just need the courage to show it.

We can all have that bravery actually. 

In fact, we can do far more with God's help.

In the Bible, God makes it clear that He is totally wild. He does some really crazy things. He speaks through a donkey, He causes a bush to set on fire without burning, He makes a big fish swallow a man in order to get his attention, He sends plagues of frogs/locusts, He sends demons into a herd of pigs, and He uses the most unlikely, strange people to be the characters throughout. 

And guess what? Those are the stories we remember most. Those are the people we still talk about to this day.

I see how God did that.

Point is, we humans have trouble remembering things unless they are unordinary. God knows that. So I'd say God is pretty weird. He's pretty crazy and doesn't care what anybody thinks about it. He just wants to be remembered and glorified.

Basically, we just need to face every day asking ourselves what we could do to stand out for God's kingdom, to make a lasting impact. It could be stepping out and looking like the "weird" one who stands up for your beliefs in your college class. It could be just having a contagious joy and smile that people can't forget. It could be taking a risk to go to a dangerous place to spread the gospel. It could be chasing your dreams when they go against the status quo. Whatever it is, make sure you stand out and have the courage to be original.

Moreover, when I look back on my life I can also pinpoint the people who showed me acts of kindness.

I remember when I was stranded at a gas station an hour and a half away from home, late at night, without my wallet and no way to pay for gas, when a woman overheard my conversation on the phone and handed me $20 to make it back.

I remember last week when my boyfriend bought flowers without me noticing and surprised me when we got back in the car, for no reason at all.

I remember just yesterday when I ran into an old friend in line getting coffee and while my back was turned, she paid for my drink. I insisted that she didn't need to do that but she just wanted to bless me. And you know the best part? She was wearing a shirt that said driew (weird spelled backwards). I was inspired. That's what I'm talking about!! Here's a girl who is proud to be weird, taking a risk by giving away her money, and being kind, all at once! (shoutout to Katie)

Hence, I developed my new catch phrase: Stay weird. Take risks. Be kind.

I have concluded that doing those three things will leave a lasting mark.

Most of all, we need our legacy to be for God's glory and we must remember to always give Him the credit. This is His story and He wants us to play a significant role. He wants us to be remembered, not for ourselves, but so that people will look back and say "that person devoted their life completely to Christ, without hesitation". I don't know about you, but that's how I want to be remembered.

So here is a breakdown of my 3 ways to leave an impression on the world:

Stay weird- Stand up and stand out without worrying about what people think. Laugh often, be the person with contagious joy, and feel free to dance ;)

Take risks- Chase after your calling, despite the opinions of others. If you seem crazy, that's probably a good thing because God has a way of using crazy situations to do big things.

Be kind- Leave a legacy of Jesus' love through everyday acts of kindness. Change the world by intentionally caring for people.

Now, that is worth remembering. 

People thought Jesus was crazy. People thought Mother Teresa was crazy. Both took risks because of their love for people. Jesus, even to the point of death on the cross. We can all carry the love of Jesus and that is what will never be forgotten. 

"I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world." 
- Mother Teresa

Always love, 

Darcy





Saturday, May 28, 2016

GOD DOESN'T NEED US

God is wild, yet completely in control
God is free to do what he wants, yet always has a plan
God is able to answer our prayers, yet nothing we ask for can control Him
God is bigger than everything, yet more intimate with us than anyone
God is full of glory, yet humbled himself to become human 
God is timeless, yet has a time for everything
God is self sufficient, yet created us out of love
God is all knowing, yet allows us the chance to discover
God is gracious, yet equally just
God is forgiving, yet gives us the choice to accept it or not 
God is the main character, yet includes us in His story

It's not about us. It's not about our happiness. It's not about our eternity. It's not about our comfort. It's not about our life. It's about His glory, His worship, His praise, and His plan. It's about Him. 

This isn't intended to make anyone feel worthless by any means but the truth is that God doesn't need us. The good part though, is that He WANTS us. He loves us and that's why He made us. Not so that we could have the perfect life on Earth but so that we could choose to love Him in return. The point is that if we make it about Him, we will find the meaning of our existence. Our lives belong to our Creator, so let's let Him have them. Lets fulfill our purpose, and let His Spirit guide us. 

5 questions to ask ourselves:

Am I serving God or expecting God to serve me?

Am I praying to try to control the outcome of my circumstance, or praying for God to take control, despite my opinion?  

Am I seeing God as big and wild, or small and contained to my own view of Him?

Am I seeking God out of my desperate need for Him or just out of obligation? 

Am I trusting God's timing or trying to convince Him that my agenda is the right one?


Always love,

Darcy